A new study has found that equally sharing child care responsibilities improves your sex life. The parental tasks include everything from reading bed time stories, to changing diapers, to taking the child out in the park, to arranging carpools.
For these couples to have some of the most high quality relationships as well as some of the best sex lives of all couples, they need to at least divide these tasks by 40 percent (40%) and 60 percent (60%), if not 50 percent (50%) and 50 percent (50%).
Dan Carlson, co-author on the study and sociologist from Georgia State University, gave a statement saying that “In nearly every case, compared to having the female partner doing all the child care, we found that couples who split it equally had better outcomes across the board”.
He went on to say that “Egalitarian couples fought less” and that they also had higher quality relationships and were a lot happier with their sex lives as well as “the amount of sex they were having”, when compared to traditional couples.
Carlson informed that egalitarian couples, where men and women share responsibilities equally, and traditional couples, where men are primarily responsible for bringing home the cash and women are primarily responsible for looking after the children and cleaning the house, had pretty much the same amount of sex, but egalitarian couples had better sex, so they were more satisfied with it.
The co-author also stressed that the differences between the two (2) types of couples aren’t minor at all. There are “gulfs of difference between egalitarian and traditional couples” when you look at relationship satisfaction, relationship conflict and quality of sex.
Out of all the couples that Carlson surveyed and studied, traditional couples were the ones least satisfied with the quality that their sex lives and their relationships had. These findings applied to both the men and the women in traditional couple arrangements.
There were only a handful of reverse traditional couple arrangements (where women are primarily responsible for bringing home the cash and men are primarily responsible for looking after the children and cleaning the house), however even they proved to be happier with the quality of their relationship and the quality of their sex life.
But there was one key difference between men and women in reverse traditional couple arrangements. Men in this arrangement usually rated the frequency that they were having sex at the lowest, whereas women in this arrangement usually rated the frequency that they were having sex at the highest. Basically men were dissatisfied with the frequency of sex, whereas women were satisfied.
The new study has revolutionized some theories as older studies had concluded that egalitarian couples didn’t spend as much time together as traditional couple and had less sex than traditional couple did. They also had more strain in the older studies, were less happy with the quality of their relationship and the quality of their sex life, and more likely to get divorced.
But Carlson shared that the only couples having more sex today than they did 20 years ago are egalitarian couples – “Something rather miraculous has occurred in the last 20 years. Gender equality has become good for us” – and the most likely cause of divorce these days is an unfair division of time between home and work.
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